Coaching with John Buthorn
One-to-one coaching that takes your life as seriously as you do.
Your career may involve serving others, making difficult decisions, and carrying significant responsibility. But relationships, family, personal goals, and important decisions don't always become easier because you're experienced at handling challenges professionally.
My approach is straightforward. I'll take the time to understand your circumstances, draw on my knowledge and experience, and work with you to develop practical approaches that fit your life.
recommended commitment
6 months
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$450 / month
60-minute video sessions
Every 2 weeks
What you can expect
Working together, in practice.
Questions that go beyond the obvious
I'll take the time to understand your experiences, relationships, and responsibilities rather than assume your professional background tells me everything about you.
Time dedicated to you
You give your responsibilities your full attention. Our meetings give your own decisions, relationships, and goals that same consideration.
A different perspective
Being close to a situation can make it hard to see other possibilities. Expect honest observations and questions that help you look at things differently.
A relationship that develops over time
As I get to know your circumstances, we build on previous conversations rather than starting over each time.
Practical guidance
Our conversations won't stop at understanding. We'll explore realistic steps, informed by principles of behavior and change, that you can try in everyday life.
A collaborative relationship
You remain responsible for your choices. My role is to help you examine options and think through what makes sense for you.
How it works
Our conversations
start with your real life.
You don't need a perfectly defined goal. Whether it's a professional transition, a difficult relationship, or a familiar behavior, we'll begin with what's relevant to you.
How we'd approach what matters to you
Four examples
of what it might look like.
I don't assume that people with similar backgrounds face the same challenges.
We start with your circumstances and work toward practical changes.
These aren't predetermined lessons or one-size-fits-all solutions.
Your coaching is shaped by your experiences, relationships, priorities, and goals.
Why I recommend six months
Meaningful change often takes time.
A single conversation can be useful. But understanding familiar patterns, developing new approaches, and making meaningful changes often takes longer.
Six months allows enough time to build on our work, apply practical changes, and evaluate your progress. It's a recommendation, not a requirement. Your priorities may change, and our work can evolve with them.
Your investment
What's included
Everything in your coaching.
Working directly with me
I don't expect you to have all the answers.
My background combines service in the United States Marine Corps, a career with the NYPD as a Detective and Sergeant, and graduate-level education and professional experience in human behavior and social work.
Those experiences shaped how I listen, ask questions, and understand the influences behind people's decisions. I'm familiar with the professional cultures that shape those who serve, but I also know your profession doesn't define everything about you.
I won't pretend to have all the answers myself. What I can offer is my attention, experience, informed perspective, and commitment to helping you make meaningful changes.
Questions about working together.
Still unsure? That's exactly what the free first conversation is for.
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Center Fidelis primarily serves law enforcement professionals, first responders, active-duty military personnel, and veterans.
Center Fidelis primarily serves law enforcement professionals, first responders, active-duty military personnel, and veterans.
Whether you're actively serving, approaching retirement, navigating a career change, or have been out of service for years, our work can address personal development, relationships, decisions, goals, habits, and life transitions. Your concerns don't have to be related to your profession.
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No. Some people begin with a particular decision, relationship concern, or goal. Others have a general sense that there's something they'd like to approach differently. Our early conversations can help identify where you'd like to focus.
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We'll meet by video every two weeks over six months. Limited app-based messaging support is also available between sessions for updates, questions, and feedback.
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That's completely fine. Your circumstances may change over six months. We'll regularly review what you're working toward and adjust our focus when appropriate.
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No. Our work focuses on personal development, goals, decisions, habits, relationships, and everyday challenges. Although I bring knowledge of human behavior into my coaching, it is separate from psychotherapy and clinical mental health treatment.
Coaching does not involve diagnosing or treating mental health conditions and is not a substitute for appropriate medical or mental health care.
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Yes. We can explore your perspective, your values, the decisions you're considering, and how you want to approach a situation.
Coaching is not couples therapy or treatment for trauma or other mental health conditions. If your circumstances call for specialized clinical support, we'll discuss whether a referral would be more appropriate.
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I treat your personal information and our conversations with care and respect. Before beginning, we'll review the confidentiality provisions of our coaching agreement, including applicable limits and exceptions.
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That's why I offer a free introductory conversation. Tell me what you're looking for, ask about my approach, and we'll decide together whether working together makes sense before you commit.